IM FACING SERIOUS
personality appearance contradiction
people thinks im fierce, grumpy and unfriendly from my appearance, especially when i don't smile
but i think im damn friendly and cincai ok
my emotion doesn't mean anything, it doesn't mean something is bothering me and i don't have to smile all the time ok? ki siao ar?
i look stress??? i more stress talk to u
HAIhzz
hard to change anything
i dun wan like tis..
it's been awhile
how to deal with this hmmMM.. stress
socially deprived
say what you feel not what you think?
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Monday, April 20, 2009
大風無法撼動一座山
當別人對你說了一些刺傷你的話，批評你、羞辱你，你會怎樣？
你會火冒三丈，氣呼呼地罵回去，或是忍氣吞聲地強壓下來？
然後呢？你是否會愈想愈氣，整個情緒都大受影響？
有天，佛陀行經一個村莊，一些前去找他的人對他說話很不客氣，甚至口出穢言。佛陀站在那裡仔細地、靜靜地聽著，然後說：「謝謝你們來找我，不過我正趕路， 下一村的人還在等我，我必須趕過去。不過等明天回來之後我會有較充裕的時間，到時候如果你們還有什麼話想告訴我，再一起過來好嗎？」
那些人簡直不敢相信他們耳朵所聽到的話，和眼前所看到的情景：這個人是怎麼回事？
其中一個人問佛陀：「難道你沒有聽見我們說的話嗎？我們把你說得一無是處，你卻沒有任何反應！」
佛陀說：「假使你要的是我的反應的話，那你來得太晚了，你應該十年前就來的，那時的我就會有所反應。然而，這十年以來我己經不再被別人所控制，我己經不再是個奴隸，我是自己的主人。
我是根據自己在做事，而不是跟隨別人在反應。」
如果有人對你生氣，那是「他的」問題；
如果他侮辱你，那是「他的」問題；
如果他粗暴無禮，那仍是「他的」問題。
因為他要怎麼說，怎麼做，那是「他的」修養，你能怎麼辦？
讓我再重複一遍上面故事中佛陀所說的話：「我己經不再被別人所控制，我己經不再是個奴隸，我是自己的主人。我是根據自己在做事，而不是跟隨別人在反應。」你是情緒的主人，而不是奴隸。
曾聽過一則故事:
有個人每天都固定向某報攤買一份報紙，儘管這個攤販的臉一向都很臭，但他還是每次都對小販客氣地說聲謝謝。
有一次和他同行的朋友看到這情形，便問他：「他每天賣東西都是這種態度嗎？」
「是的。」
「那你為什麼還對他如此客氣？」
那人回答：「我為什麼要讓他決定我的行為？」
是啊！我們為什麼要讓別人的表現來決定自己的行為呢？
你有看過「生命的答案，水知道」這本書嗎？水能夠對人的話與做出反應。當你的心中是喜悅、感恩的時候，水的結晶就是美麗晶透的；當你的心中是憤恨、仇怒的 時候，水的結晶則是扭曲混濁的。人的身體裡70%是水分，你可以想像到，當你在生氣、憤恨、痛苦、怨懟的時候，你身體裡70%的水分是以污濁的水溝水的狀 況來呈現ㄡ！那…身體又怎麼會健康呢.
你會火冒三丈，氣呼呼地罵回去，或是忍氣吞聲地強壓下來？
然後呢？你是否會愈想愈氣，整個情緒都大受影響？
有天，佛陀行經一個村莊，一些前去找他的人對他說話很不客氣，甚至口出穢言。佛陀站在那裡仔細地、靜靜地聽著，然後說：「謝謝你們來找我，不過我正趕路， 下一村的人還在等我，我必須趕過去。不過等明天回來之後我會有較充裕的時間，到時候如果你們還有什麼話想告訴我，再一起過來好嗎？」
那些人簡直不敢相信他們耳朵所聽到的話，和眼前所看到的情景：這個人是怎麼回事？
其中一個人問佛陀：「難道你沒有聽見我們說的話嗎？我們把你說得一無是處，你卻沒有任何反應！」
佛陀說：「假使你要的是我的反應的話，那你來得太晚了，你應該十年前就來的，那時的我就會有所反應。然而，這十年以來我己經不再被別人所控制，我己經不再是個奴隸，我是自己的主人。
我是根據自己在做事，而不是跟隨別人在反應。」
如果有人對你生氣，那是「他的」問題；
如果他侮辱你，那是「他的」問題；
如果他粗暴無禮，那仍是「他的」問題。
因為他要怎麼說，怎麼做，那是「他的」修養，你能怎麼辦？
讓我再重複一遍上面故事中佛陀所說的話：「我己經不再被別人所控制，我己經不再是個奴隸，我是自己的主人。我是根據自己在做事，而不是跟隨別人在反應。」你是情緒的主人，而不是奴隸。
曾聽過一則故事:
有個人每天都固定向某報攤買一份報紙，儘管這個攤販的臉一向都很臭，但他還是每次都對小販客氣地說聲謝謝。
有一次和他同行的朋友看到這情形，便問他：「他每天賣東西都是這種態度嗎？」
「是的。」
「那你為什麼還對他如此客氣？」
那人回答：「我為什麼要讓他決定我的行為？」
是啊！我們為什麼要讓別人的表現來決定自己的行為呢？
你有看過「生命的答案，水知道」這本書嗎？水能夠對人的話與做出反應。當你的心中是喜悅、感恩的時候，水的結晶就是美麗晶透的；當你的心中是憤恨、仇怒的 時候，水的結晶則是扭曲混濁的。人的身體裡70%是水分，你可以想像到，當你在生氣、憤恨、痛苦、怨懟的時候，你身體裡70%的水分是以污濁的水溝水的狀 況來呈現ㄡ！那…身體又怎麼會健康呢.
Friday, April 3, 2009
The growing time
If you look back over your life, you will see that you never grow during easy times; you grow during hard times. During the easy times that come, you are able to enjoy what you have gained during the hard times. This is really a life principle; it is just the way it works. You work all week, then you receive your paycheck and enjoy your weekend off.
You exercise, eat right, and take good care of yourself, then you enjoy a healthy body. You clean your house, or basement, or garage, and then you enjoy your neat, clean surroundings each time you walk through them.
To be truly victorious, we must grow to the place where we are not afraid of hard times but are actually challenged by them. Because it is during these hard times that we grow.
You exercise, eat right, and take good care of yourself, then you enjoy a healthy body. You clean your house, or basement, or garage, and then you enjoy your neat, clean surroundings each time you walk through them.
To be truly victorious, we must grow to the place where we are not afraid of hard times but are actually challenged by them. Because it is during these hard times that we grow.
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
proper way to drink water
i didn't write this.. but wish to share with people that i care.. let's keep to the practice together.
According to that program. . .
Adults doing normal activity need to drink at least 2.5 liters (1 liter = 1.057 quarts) of water daily as replacement fluid. That includes not just the water you drink, but also the liquid contained in the foods you eat.
How do we lose water? 1.5 liters are lost through urine and stools, 0.5 liters are lost through perspiration and 0.5 liters are lost through breathing (exhalation).
Body percentage of water
Infants are 80% water
Adults are 60% water
Elderly persons are 50% water (because the sense of thirst deteriorates with age)
Drink water upon waking
After rinsing your mouth, drink a large glass of 'good' water to replenish the liquid you lost during the night (it is said that we lose about 300 ml or 12 oz of water via perspiration and exhalation). Also, since water contains calcium, it helps to keep you from getting irritable throughout the day.
Drink water before mealtimes
Drink a glass of water about 30 minutes before meals so that you have the water in your intestines when you start eating. That will help you to digest the foods you eat. If possible, try not to drink liquids during your meals because 1. doing so will dilute stomach fluids needed for digestion 2. the foods you eat contain enough liquids 3. some people have a tendency to 'wash down' their food without sufficient chewing.
If you do drink something during or directly after a meal, it is recommended that you drink a warm liquid. Drinking cold liquids will solidify the oily foods you just ate and make them harder to digest.
(By chewing well and thoroughly crushing your food before swallowing, you can lighten the load on your stomach and intestines. It is believed that the condition of your stomach and intestines is directly related to how long you will live.)
Drink water after heavy exercise
During the program, they brought in a hot and sweaty man who had been peddling a stationary bicycle. They placed before him 15 glasses (each filled with 100 ml or 4 oz of water) and told him to drink as much as he wanted. After drinking only 3 glasses of water, he said he was satisfied (although still dehydrated).
The professor explained that this phenomena occurs because the salt that the body has lost through heavy sweating has caused the brain to give an improper signal. So after heavy exercise, add a little salt to your water to correct the condition. A sports drink will also do.
Drink water at bedtime
It is very important to drink a glass of water before going to bed. Why? Because most strokes occur during the early morning hours. In Japan, they call that water "Takara Mizu" or "Treasure Water" (I suppose because it helps to keep you alive overnight so that you can get up the next morning).
One lady in the audience commented, "Yes, but if I drink water before going to bed, I have to get up during the night to go the bathroom." To which the Professor suggested that "Adding a little honey and lemon to your glass of water usually helps". (I have found recently that adding a pinch of sea salt also helps. But of course, too much salt is not good.)
In conclusion, the Professor encouraged everyone to make a conscious effort to drink at least 2.5 liters of 'good' water daily (drink even when you do not feel thirsty).
PS: Considering that dehydration or lack of water is thought to be the cause of about 95% of all diseases and illnesses, that is a very good suggestion.
According to that program. . .
Adults doing normal activity need to drink at least 2.5 liters (1 liter = 1.057 quarts) of water daily as replacement fluid. That includes not just the water you drink, but also the liquid contained in the foods you eat.
How do we lose water? 1.5 liters are lost through urine and stools, 0.5 liters are lost through perspiration and 0.5 liters are lost through breathing (exhalation).
Body percentage of water
Infants are 80% water
Adults are 60% water
Elderly persons are 50% water (because the sense of thirst deteriorates with age)
Drink water upon waking
After rinsing your mouth, drink a large glass of 'good' water to replenish the liquid you lost during the night (it is said that we lose about 300 ml or 12 oz of water via perspiration and exhalation). Also, since water contains calcium, it helps to keep you from getting irritable throughout the day.
Drink water before mealtimes
Drink a glass of water about 30 minutes before meals so that you have the water in your intestines when you start eating. That will help you to digest the foods you eat. If possible, try not to drink liquids during your meals because 1. doing so will dilute stomach fluids needed for digestion 2. the foods you eat contain enough liquids 3. some people have a tendency to 'wash down' their food without sufficient chewing.
If you do drink something during or directly after a meal, it is recommended that you drink a warm liquid. Drinking cold liquids will solidify the oily foods you just ate and make them harder to digest.
(By chewing well and thoroughly crushing your food before swallowing, you can lighten the load on your stomach and intestines. It is believed that the condition of your stomach and intestines is directly related to how long you will live.)
Drink water after heavy exercise
During the program, they brought in a hot and sweaty man who had been peddling a stationary bicycle. They placed before him 15 glasses (each filled with 100 ml or 4 oz of water) and told him to drink as much as he wanted. After drinking only 3 glasses of water, he said he was satisfied (although still dehydrated).
The professor explained that this phenomena occurs because the salt that the body has lost through heavy sweating has caused the brain to give an improper signal. So after heavy exercise, add a little salt to your water to correct the condition. A sports drink will also do.
Drink water at bedtime
It is very important to drink a glass of water before going to bed. Why? Because most strokes occur during the early morning hours. In Japan, they call that water "Takara Mizu" or "Treasure Water" (I suppose because it helps to keep you alive overnight so that you can get up the next morning).
One lady in the audience commented, "Yes, but if I drink water before going to bed, I have to get up during the night to go the bathroom." To which the Professor suggested that "Adding a little honey and lemon to your glass of water usually helps". (I have found recently that adding a pinch of sea salt also helps. But of course, too much salt is not good.)
In conclusion, the Professor encouraged everyone to make a conscious effort to drink at least 2.5 liters of 'good' water daily (drink even when you do not feel thirsty).
PS: Considering that dehydration or lack of water is thought to be the cause of about 95% of all diseases and illnesses, that is a very good suggestion.
Thursday, March 5, 2009
嘴巴是別人的，人生是自己的
嘴巴是別人的，人生是自己的快樂，是純粹自然的產物， 是自己百分百支持自己、肯定自己的禮物。 沒有了自我，一切的快樂都是虛偽的假象。即是人家批評你、否定你、攻擊妳，也不代表你的自我受到否定， 唯一能否定你的人，只有你自己。
因此，那些經不起人家批評， 人家說一句，就要難過三十天，人家說兩句就要打人翻臉的人，事實上是對自己極端沒信心的表現。 當然了！ 這種容易跟人家「批評」起舞的人，注定要跟快樂說拜拜。
只要有人的地方就有是非； 只要人家有嘴巴，就會有意見和批評 想快樂的人，就不要太理別人的批評。再者，太在意別人想法的人，不僅不能快樂，也容易失去自己的特色和個性， 更沒辦法發揮自己的潛能。
總之，嘴巴是別人的，人生是自己的，有習慣性被人家嘴巴「虐待」的人，請用左腦右腦想一想： 『為什麼我要當人家嘴巴的奴隸？
TRANSLATION:
mouth belongs to others but life belongs to ourselves
happiness comes naturally from within
it's an exclusive present to completely support ourselves n give us our self-esteem
Without our inner-self, all the happiness are merely fake illusions
even though ppl criticize you, n are not being supportive of wat u do, or even attack u,
it doesn't mean you have to label urself faultily
coz the only person who can change ur impression towards urself is urself.
therefore, ppl who cannot stand criticism,
ppl who feel upset for 30 days jz because a word from others,
ppl who feel like beating up other ppl or turn their face off others jz because of some critics,
are actually demonstrating severe lack of confidence,
and of course,
ppl who are easily affected by what others say,
are destined to say goodbye to their happiness
whenever there are ppl, there are gossips,
as long as ppl have mouth, there are opinions n critics
if you want to be happy, don't care too much about what ppl are badmouthing abt u,
coz if we take that too seriously, we will not be happy and will eventually lose our unique characters n attitudes. at last, we won't be able to unleash our potentials, and ppl won't be able to see what we really are.
thus, mouth belongs to others but our life is still ours.
if we have the habit to be tortured by others' mouth,
please think with your left brain,
"y do we need to be enslaved by others' mouth?"
因此，那些經不起人家批評， 人家說一句，就要難過三十天，人家說兩句就要打人翻臉的人，事實上是對自己極端沒信心的表現。 當然了！ 這種容易跟人家「批評」起舞的人，注定要跟快樂說拜拜。
只要有人的地方就有是非； 只要人家有嘴巴，就會有意見和批評 想快樂的人，就不要太理別人的批評。再者，太在意別人想法的人，不僅不能快樂，也容易失去自己的特色和個性， 更沒辦法發揮自己的潛能。
總之，嘴巴是別人的，人生是自己的，有習慣性被人家嘴巴「虐待」的人，請用左腦右腦想一想： 『為什麼我要當人家嘴巴的奴隸？
TRANSLATION:
mouth belongs to others but life belongs to ourselves
happiness comes naturally from within
it's an exclusive present to completely support ourselves n give us our self-esteem
Without our inner-self, all the happiness are merely fake illusions
even though ppl criticize you, n are not being supportive of wat u do, or even attack u,
it doesn't mean you have to label urself faultily
coz the only person who can change ur impression towards urself is urself.
therefore, ppl who cannot stand criticism,
ppl who feel upset for 30 days jz because a word from others,
ppl who feel like beating up other ppl or turn their face off others jz because of some critics,
are actually demonstrating severe lack of confidence,
and of course,
ppl who are easily affected by what others say,
are destined to say goodbye to their happiness
whenever there are ppl, there are gossips,
as long as ppl have mouth, there are opinions n critics
if you want to be happy, don't care too much about what ppl are badmouthing abt u,
coz if we take that too seriously, we will not be happy and will eventually lose our unique characters n attitudes. at last, we won't be able to unleash our potentials, and ppl won't be able to see what we really are.
thus, mouth belongs to others but our life is still ours.
if we have the habit to be tortured by others' mouth,
please think with your left brain,
"y do we need to be enslaved by others' mouth?"
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
start of something new
second day of school.. nothing much yet..hoping to achieve 4HDs this time =) walk the talk!
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